Sex Drive Differences


		Erection Problems Orgasm Problems Premature Ejaculation Sex Drive Differences Lack of Desire Vaginismus Sex Drive Differences Sex drive differences are just as normal as different eating appetites and the types of foods that we like. If a relationship is otherwise healthy, differences in sex drive tend to create problems about 20 percent of the time. In relationships that are not healthy, differences in sex drive can be the focus of arguments 80 percent of the time. Sex difference is only a problem when two people with different levels are in a relationship together. And sex drive differences is one of the most common complaints seen by sex therapists. Small differences in sex drive often magnified by poor communication. When I ask about the frequency of sex with a couple, it is not uncommon for one of them to say the other wants it all the time and one of them to say that the other never wants it. When I ask for the number of times one may say they want to have sex every other day while the other will say two times a week. That is not a big difference. But this is what I hear about their differences. The one that wants sex more often gets to feel like they have to proposition the one that wants sex less often. The one that wants sex less often gets to feel like they must say no because if they did not they would be having sex all the time. The solution to sex drive difference is through talking to each other to find a frequency of sex that will both to feel comfortable and fulfilled. The talking should be done outside the bedroom and at a time different than the couple normally have sex. If the couple can not talk to each other in a non-threatening way, then I recommend that they see a sex therapist that help them with their discussion. If not discussed, sex drive differences will get worse just like a small sore that will get infected and get worse. Each member begins to take the other's propositions and refusals personally which leads to resentment then to anger, loss of self esteem, etc. One of the things that I hear most often with couples is that we don't do the things that we use to do (when they were dating). Couples often put their relationship on the back burner while they are "getting ahead", "making enough to pay the bills", "raising children", etc. It is essential for couples to continue making their time together exciting and special, and making time together a priority. Setting time aside to be together should be just as important as making sure there is enough food.